The Perfect Escape

Although the history of Koreans in America can be traced back to the late 19th century, the majority of Korean immigration occurred in the 20th century, creating the first generation of Korean immigrants, like Nate’s parents. First-generation immigrants are those who were born in their home country but go on to settle in a new country; their children are known as the second generation, and future generations are numbered accordingly. Second-generation Korean Americans like Nate face unique challenges as they navigate their blended identity. They may feel torn between their Korean heritage and their American upbringing as they struggle with feeling “Korean enough” or “American enough.” Language differences can deepen this identity crisis because while they may understand or speak Korean to varying degrees, they might not be as fluent as their parents or grandparents are. This language gap can sometimes lead to difficulties in communicating and a deepening sense of shame on both sides. Differences in cultural values and expectations between generations can also lead to conflicts within the family. Young adults like Nate often have aspirations, beliefs, and fears that differ from traditional Korean norms and expectations. For example, when Nate’s father is frustrated with Nate’s hesitation over climbing a ladder, Nate feels like his father is disappointed in him for his phobia of heights.

Because second-generation Korean Americans often seek to balance their Korean heritage with a conflicting desire to fit in with their American peers, this balancing act can sometimes lead to feelings of isolation and the perception of being “different” or “inferior.” Nate struggles with these feelings at his prestigious high school, which is primarily populated by white, wealthy classmates. Some second-generation Korean Americans adapt to their blended identity by creating their own unique cultural fusion, incorporating aspects of both cultures into their daily lives, relationships, and personal values. Nevertheless, the experiences of second-generation Korean Americans like Nate are highly individualized. Some may feel more connected to their Korean heritage, while others may identify more strongly with their American identity. Ultimately, the Korean American experience and the process of reconciling this blended identity is a personal journey through which individuals find unique ways to reconcile the different aspects of their complex cultural identities.