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Kennedy Ryan

This Could Be Us

Kennedy RyanFiction | Novel | Adult | Published in 2024

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Themes

Self-Care and Self-Acceptance

One of the strongest throughlines in the novel is the idea that understanding and accepting oneself is fundamental to peace of mind and to the ability to relate to and nurture others. Soledad makes the radical choice to focus on self-care to heal from Edward’s betrayal and the breakdown of her marriage. Rather than turning to romance to distract or rescue her, Soledad commits to self-partnering—relearning to trust and follow her own instincts. She finds that her growing confidence, security, and maturity make her a better partner, mother, sister, and friend.

Edward’s crime and infidelity jolt Soledad into recognizing the degree to which he has taken her for granted and devalued her: “All these years I thought we were working together, but Edward thought I wasn’t working at all. He viewed me as a dependent, not a partner” (153). Her life until now has played into the common cultural script that values salaried work above domestic labor. Soledad’s triumph is figuring out how to make an income out of her household skills. She learns that her skills have entertainment and educational value to other people and that she can use her self-care quest to build a community online. Followers flock to her videos about getting dressed for a solo date or refurbishing Edward’s man cave into her she shed, as her decision to address her own needs and wants resonates with others. At the same time, Soledad realizes that self-care requires both face time with the people she loves, including her best friends and sisters, and time alone. Having conversations with her heart gives Soledad valuable insights into her feelings and motivations, allowing her to make choices from healthy and intentional grounds.

Soledad’s self-partnering runs counter to the conventional romantic notion that a partner can make a person complete. Soledad notes,

To love and be loved is a perfectly healthy desire, unless we believe that relationship is somehow supposed to make us feel worthy or fulfilled. There’s so much pressure not to be alone that sometimes it makes you feel like as a single person you don’t have as much identity. It compels us to search for that person who will make us feel whole (157).

Instead, Soledad makes a “Me List”: “a list of things I’m doing solely for my enjoyment. Not about my job or my kids or my friends or my family. Just for me” (201). Judah shows that the need for self-care isn’t an exclusively feminine urge. He makes his own “Me List” and returns to a hobby he once enjoyed, that of restoring classic vehicles. This evidence that he has been inspired by her ideas bonds them.

In the end, Soledad’s successful quest for self-love, motivated by the advice her mother imparts through her journals, readies her for a healthy, mature, and honest partnership. Soledad realizes that her life doesn’t need to revolve around or be defined by a significant other; instead, she thinks of her friends, sisters, and daughters as “[her] great loves” (266). Soledad loves Judah, but their relationship is successful because she loves and takes care of herself—that is the foundation for the nurturing she provides to all her loved ones.

Navigating Multi-Ethnic Identities

Through Soledad’s family and those of her friends, the novel examines the tensions in marriages between people of different ethnicities and the way this kind of multi-ethnic and multi-racial heritage affects children.

Soledad learned at a young age how to navigate being a person of multiple ethnicities. While her father, Jason, was “a ginger with freckles and a gangly frame” (47), her mother had Black and Puerto Rican heritage. Her father’s mother lived in the American South and shared her Southern recipes with Soledad and her sisters, while Soledad’s abuela, with whom she spent summers in Puerto Rico, shared her own culture, traditions, and food. One element of this history is the Grito de Lares flag, a symbol of the uprising against Spanish rule that took place in Puerto Rico in 1868. Because of this time spent with their grandmother, Soledad and her sisters refer to themselves as Boricua—a term describing those of Puerto Rican ancestry—and Lola calls their sisterly chat the “Boricua High Council.” Soledad’s sisters do not look alike: Lupe inherited the features of her Black father, Brayden, while Soledad and Nayeli, who shared a white father, look more like their mother. Because of this, the sisters grew up aware of colorism—bias in which lighter skin is valued over a darker complexion. Guarding against this kind of external judgment, the sisters fiercely protected Lola from prejudice.

Having learned this closeness with her sisters, Soledad has made a special effort to make sure her daughters all feel equally loved, valued, and beautiful, though their genetics present in different ways as well. Lupe inherited her grandfather’s red hair, “Edward’s green eyes and her own pale-gold skin” (17), which leads Oneida, Edward’s mother, to perceive Lupe as more beautiful than Inez or Lottie, who “took a deep dive into the African American and Puerto Rican end of [her] gene pool” (34). Soledad resists exposing Lupe to Oneida’s racist attitude. At the same time, she sends Inez and Lottie to Harrington, a private, predominately white school they call the “Twiwhite Zone” despite the challenges they might face as some of the few students of color (34). Taking the risk that they might feel isolated or, worse, experience discrimination for the color of their skin, Soledad makes an effort to keep the girls at Harrington—including taking Oneida’s money, along with her snide remarks—because of the opportunities it offers, like Lottie’s gymnastics.

Soledad’s facility in navigating the many cultures that form her background is illustrated most vividly in her cooking. Soledad expresses love through food and also uses her recipes to express her pride in her heritage. Whether it’s the focaccia bread she delivers, the vinaigrette video that goes viral, the carne guisada she describes to Judah when they first meet, the pasteles she makes for Nochebuena, or the peace cobbler she learned from her grandmother, all of Soledad’s cooking is a testament to her ease with her multiple ethnicities. When Soledad hosts her dinner at the end of the book, the guests at her table are a diverse group, affirming that every person, no matter their heritage, background, or ability, is deserving of love, respect, and just treatment.

Parenting in Difficult Circumstances

While Hendrix jokes, “I would have kids, if my love language was drudgery” (150), the novel presents parenting as both challenging and rewarding. Ryan looks at the complexities of parenthood through the lens of several characters, examining the demands of parental love and the responsibility of meeting a child’s needs.

Judah is an example of parental love as sacrificial and completely focused on caregiving, to the exclusion of almost everything else. His twin sons, Adam and Aaron, have autism that presents in different ways. Adam is more verbal and can be integrated into a mainstream classroom with an IEP, or individualized educational program, designed to adapt his instruction to his abilities. Aaron is less verbal, requiring more support, routine, and the use of a device that displays images to help him communicate. His sons are the great love of Judah’s life; it is clear that he would never consider a relationship with anyone who couldn’t care for and respect them. The first thing that endears Soledad to him is her unlikely connection with Aaron; the boy solves Rubik’s Cubes with her and even shares his name. Soledad’s ability to bond with Judah’s sons confirms her fitness as a romantic partner for Judah.

Soledad’s challenge is to learn how to not only parent solo, since Edward is in jail, but also do it without the support of her parents, who are deceased, or Edward’s, who are untrustworthy. Besides the normal angst of teen and preteen life, her daughters are dealing with the multiple traumas of their parents’ divorce, their father’s imprisonment, and their father’s eventual abandonment of them. Again and again, however, Soledad rises to the occasion, providing what her children need: guidance, advice, life skills, and role modeling. She takes them to help clean Cora Garland’s house while Cora is ill from her cancer treatments, showing how to build community with elders that can be a found family. When she accompanies the girls to prison to visit Edward, Soledad has to break the news that their father had a baby with another woman and has chosen to be with that family. This is unavoidably devastating, but she has taught her daughters resilience and has modeled self-love—tools that will help them meet their challenges.

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